Yesterday was Boxing Day in Australia, and that means sales. Serious people-crushing, wake-up-early and GO GET THEM sales! But you know what? I wasn’t there, I just couldn’t spend the spoons or the money (shopping centres give me the heebies!) I have been feeling a tad fraudulent lately, because I had it in my head that in order to participate in fatshion blogging one must have shiny new clothes all the time. And that just isn’t practical for me, we can’t afford to do that. So I had a little ponder and a chat with some great people on Tumblr and I was reminded of why I started blogging about my outfits: to normalise fat bodies.
When I started reading about fashion online it wasn’t high fashion I was into, it was the things that people wore every day to express themselves. I was a huge fan Bits and Bobbins and was thrilled by the community she created called wardrobe_remix. It’s all about remixing the garments you own and creating really truly individual style without much focus on consuming fast fashion. The people who posted outfits had items of clothing passed down through their family, stuff they’d made themselves or thrifted. I really loved how meaningful it was. But as someone who didn’t fit into Mum’s amazing old clothes or much in op shops I felt a bit out of the loop, and fast/ cheap OR high end/ couture plus size fashion really doesn’t exist in Australia so when I came across the world of Fatshionista and online shopping, my world was pretty much rocked.
My focus turned to shopping overseas on eBay, through the Fatshionista sales posts as well as with online retailers. Fatshion blogs started popping up everywhere and I got the overwhelming impression that it was all about shopping and showing off new stuff every week… and you know what? I just couldn’t keep up. I felt ashamed that I couldn’t keep up, and that shame sticks like tacky capitalist chewing gum.
I need to get back to my original modus operandi, to normalise my body and to express myself through my presentation. I know a lot of people who might want to blog, or have been blogging, but felt intimidated by not having hauls to show off each week and I want to invite you ALL to this thing. Let’s remix and express and normalise. Hold swap parties with friends. Give clothes you no longer wear freely to people who need them. Paint a picture with the things you already own and if you’ve got things that need modifying look up some DIY sewing resources, call a friend with a sewing machine and have a refashioning party or visit a seamstress. Of course if you don’t have access to these things it’s completely understandable, and as someone who can sew I do have that head start. I just want to stop feeling ashamed that I don’t have the money to buy clothes every week. (And if you do have the money, by all means, please feel free to spend it on what you wish!)
My blog will not be about the latest and greatest fashion. It will be about what I like to wear and what makes me feel like the me-est me I can possibly be.
So this is what I wore to go to the shops today. We decided to brave the sales to buy Nick some clothes (and geeze, buying nice clothes for fat men is really fecking difficult.)
LIGHTEN UP IT’S JUST FASHUN.