This blog is a personal blog, but it’s also about lots of things that people love to discuss. That’s awesome, I think dialogue is important and helps us work through difficult concepts. I welcome discussion, and to further enhance conversation I’ve installed Disqus. That means you can reply to my post, and also to other people’s comments. Go introduce yourself to a commenter you really like, and have a rad chat!

For a long time I didn’t have a comments policy, because my audience was small and pretty close knit. In recent months I have been gratefully posted, republished and linked from a number of awesome blogs and so my audience has increased. It’s probably time to formalise a few things!

No body shaming. I’m not saying everything has to be positive, but I want my blog to be a place where the negative messages from the rest of the world aren’t echoed. This also means no weight loss or diet talk.

No racism, transphobia, homophobia, ageism, sizeism or sexism.
I will delete comments containing hate speech, and I will use my discretion when deciding if the commenter will be banned from commenting.

Spammers be damned. I get a lot of spam, and I use Disqus’ fantastic moderation tools to banish it. If you’re a real person who left a comment that was a little bit too spammy (too many links/ not related to the post/ gratuitous self promotion), you may find your comment is deleted.

Personal attacks will be deleted. I will use my discretion when deciding if the commenter will be banned from commenting. Just don’t be a jerk. Ok?

Freedom of speech is something I support, but it doesn’t mean that you can say something messed up without it being addressed. This is my space. I pay for hosting and administration and I generate the content, so I get to decide what is acceptable on my space.

I reserve the right to delete comments and block commenters as I see fit. If you’d like to discuss a specific instance you’re welcome to get in touch via my contact form.

 
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  • jess

    hello, love the fat necklace you just posted on tumblr but cant seem to ask you a question there. saw sam murray wearing one of the tshirts and wondered the connection slash are you going to the fat studies conference in syd? i am! yay!
    Jess :)

  • http://www.definatalie.com definatalie

    Oooh I didn't realise people could comment on this page! (I have a contact form up there too!)

    I will be at the conference as a presenter!!! I'm super scared :D

  • jess

    oh im new at this blogging stuff. dont really know where to comment – sorry!

    yea i'm mega mega scared about presenting toooo! and i dont know anyone going except for one woman i met once! yikes!

    yay you're doing online stuff too!

  • Lmo93

    Hi! My name is Leah and I’m 17, but I just wanted to let you know that you’re a true inspiration to me. I’ve been struggling with my weight ever since I was little and even though I’ve lost weight, I still don’t feel comfortable in my own skin. I just hope to get to the point where I can be as confident and fierce as you are :) Keep on keepin on!

    Leah :)

  • Tom Coreman

    I am Tom and i was weighing 450 pounds. My daily routine was just like hell. i could hardly walk. I decided to have a lap band surgery. This surgery benefited me a lot and I lost 60 pounds in just 6 months.
    http://weightloss.marinahospital.com/

  • Iowabeefqueen

    I love, love, love the name of your blog!!! Fantastic!

  • Anonymous

    Sweetie –
    I’m sorry you’ve had such a bad year.  I identify with, and empathise with you because I have lots of challenges of my own.  I want you to know that you aren’t alone.
    I am diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder as well aa Adrenal Hypofunction (and probably Thyroid Hypofunction).  I’ve been on antidepressants for at least 25 years and have hated myself longer than that.
    ANYWAY, I’m not complaining, just stating facts.  I’ve always felt artistic and “other” but have never had the nerve to act on it.  Till now.  I Love your blog and your perspective.  I Love that you put yourself “out there” – what courage!  I don’t have alot of that right now but I’m heading that way.  Because of your blog (and others like Lip and others I can’t name right now) I’m feeling more courage than I have in a long time.  I don’t have friends who think or feel like I do.  I live in a kind of backwards, rural area, and I will be stared at for what I want to do.  But, because you can do it, I can too.
    Don’t give up Sweetie!  No matter the blocks in your way I see you continually moving forward and not giving up.  I know how that mental and physical stuff can drag you down but keep on!  You Are Awesome!  And I (an old, ugly 53 year old) am inspired and impressed by you!  Just blogging and being who you are is great enough for me!  I love you!

  • Marek

    Hi Nathalie. I’ve lost 80 kg. and I know how to do that, no hunger, no starving, no pain. It’s not for beauty. it’s because I feel better. Give me a shout.
     dzierzakm@gmail .com

  • katherine d. fernandez

    Christina’s Aguilera’s “Beautiful” song is playing on the radio right now. It’s night time and your contact page says “404 cannot be displayed”. I hope you understand how much I appreciate your art, it’s like making me hyper, it’s like waiting for a great awakening to arrive. Hope you do better in your personality, and always, always remember that true artists reside only ‘in one place’. Thank you, good health and fortune, lots of inspiration and discernment, lots of concern from loved-ones! Godspeed <3

                                                   "Co'z we are beautiful
                                                     in every single way
                                                yes, words cannot bring us down" 
          

    I am also obese (188 lbs.), trying to diet to no avail, anyway, I will start again tomorrow. :-) Katherine Fernandez, Manila Philippines (katdfernandez (at) yahoo (dot) com)   Sorry for the self-centered post! o__O

  • Lilian Wagdy

    Dear Natalie,

    I love your design of the tumblr blog theme “Dainty Fresh”. However, when I installed it, it sort of messed the width and height of my photos so it appears like this http://lili-ann.tumblr.com/. How can I resize or rescale the photos to look normal? thanks. Lilian

  • Growing Up Little

    Hi Natalie,
    Love your artwork and wanted to share it with the readers of my blog, Growing Up Little.
    I have posted the “World’s Fattest Lady” and provided a link to your blog on there. I hope some of my readers will discover you this way.
    Here’s the link to the post if you want to check it out: http://growinguplittle.wordpress.com/2013/01/29/worlds-fattest-lady-artwork/
    Keep up the great work!

  • shell

    I love reading blogs, and yours is the best I have seen in such a long time. A blog about reality that is well written and funny and sad. A million blogs out there but hardly any like yours – well done

  • Debbie

    Hello!! I am trying to find that same rose brooch from she-devil. Any chance you found out the etsy person??

  • Yona

    Your watercolors are so lovely! I want to draw lips like you do. T^T

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